Death and Time

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headless divinity photo by owl

No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away” Terry Pratchett

Those we love we continue to love even when their walk on the earth has ended. The love and memories hold the connection. Death is part of our natural cycle of living. Those afraid to die seldom really live.

My Father was not afraid. He enjoyed life and taught me many things. He was alone most of his adult life and taught me a self-reliance and appreciation for the quiet of being alone. I was very lucky he was conscious and made all of his own decisions right up to the end. He asked for the plug to be pulled all I did was hold his hand and be there. He squeezed my hand and I heard his breath leaving I squeezed back and told him I loved him.

It felt as if the world stopped and I needed to slow down life doesn’t work that way.

Things, burocratic red tape, paperwork and everything you have to do once a parent dies feel harsh and cold. Suddenly you find yourself dismantling their life and time doesn’t stop. Seven months later I am still in probate and clearing my father’s stuff. (I am told sometimes it takes years)

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Ladder by Owl (Doll Coco)

“Time stops for no man”

“The wheel is turning and you can’t slow down,

You can’t let go and you can’t hold on,

You can’t go back and you can’t stand still.. “ GD

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Moon festival  photo by Owl

Greif, grieving seems different for all of us. For me it is in waves, I love and think of my father daily. I have moments where it’s all overwhelming and I am lost.

The nagging stress questioning, am I dealing with his stuff right, what is this thing, what do I do with it, why is there so much stuff.

I keep seeing things and they mean nothing.

Why do we spend our lives surrounding ourselves with things?

No stuff is worth what a few more hours of time are worth to me.

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Broom photo by owl

~owl

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 thoughts on “Death and Time

  1. First, a big hug from me. You asked many important and sharable questions, as..: “Why do we spend our lives surrounding ourselves with things?”
    More and more often I think that all we have to do is just to live fully the simple moments we share with the people we love. Things will be forgotten. Those moments won’t.

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  2. Grief becomes a part of us too and honouring your dad the way you do is his legacy for you! He obviously was such a positive force in your life. I was with my mom as she passed into that other world. It was such a gift. And they are not dead! and you are so right, it’s not things though for me too they seem to have the sacredness of relics. They are with us in spirit and all we do that is positive is still a reflection of their love.

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